In February 2017 I had a severe accident at work and spent over 2 months in hospital. I had major surgery to save my life and rebuild my pelvis.
On leaving hospital I was referred to have some psychological counselling, the reason for this was that even though my injuries were healing I was feeling low and had feelings of low esteem about myself, I was worrying what people thought of me seeing me in a wheelchair and at this time I didn’t know how my injuries would leave me, as I saw it I was cripple, severely disabled and worthless person and now useless.
At first I thought I could cope without this type of counselling, after all I’m a man used to being the one in charge, a doer type of person, a bread winner a hard worker and strong willed I could recover on my own. Unfortunately with injuries I had the road to recovery would be long and hard and still is, my confidence was low and letting others do things for me was so frustrating and I thought humiliating.
With my sessions with Dr Khan I was able with her to talk about what happened to me and tell her about my frustrations my anxieties, something that I found difficult to do with my wife, family or friends. During the sessions Dr Khan helped me to move on put things in to perceptive, letting others help me, discuss my problems and my fears more easily, and come to terms with my injuries that even though they were severe I was healing slowly and that there was light at the end of the tunnel and not dwell too much on my injuries as that could hold me back on my recovery.
As my confidence returned I was able to put my anxieties to one side concentrate on getting better stop worrying what people thought of me, go out and do normal things with my family. This to me was a big turning point for me a weight lifted off me, I still thought about my problems but they we’re now not holding me back.
With the help of the counselling with Dr Khan I was able to return to the scene of my accident and confront where it happened something that I had dreaded, but I still found it a daunting experience but couldn’t done this without her help.
At the end of the treatment sessions I now feel that I am almost back to my pre accident self, yes I have life changing injuries that the scars will possible stay with for rest of my life and my emotions can still get the better of me but I feel that I can now cope with my day to day life and look forward doing things like going out, meeting people plan holidays and not feel I’m a worthless.
I first I thought that I did not need anybody’s help let alone help from a psychologist after all I’m a man I can do this on my own, the session taught me that I’m still the same person I was before my accident and that others can help and want to help and it’s not sign of weakness to have help.
I found Dr Khan was very kind and approachable person in the sessions she explained how and why to what we were doing in a way that I could understand which made the session beneficial to my recovery.